This has been quite an amazing year for me. My fatherpassed away on November 24, 2012 and my daughter was born on October 15, 2013. When Dad passed two days after Thanksgiving last year,I could have never guessed that less than a year later I would hold a new baby in my arms. What a blessing she has been, and both the pregnancy and her birth has helped me ease through the past year and the anniversary of his death.
This morning, I came across this phenomenal performance by the Hungarian Dance troupe, Attraction, that mirrored my own experience, and I had to share it. (The group was the winner of Britain’s Got Talent 2013).
It is so amazing to me that their beautiful and emotional performance is one that can reach across language and culture and can help comfort me, even as I relive and process this year of life events.
Just this weekend, I spoke with a friend who is dealing with her mother’s cancer. She basically said, “How can I be a mom if I lose my mom, my source of comfort and knowledge?” I felt the same about my Dad, my human search engine, cheerleader, and source of all knowledge and help. Others have come and with their talents and love have helped to fill in the gaps. It will never be the same, but now I know that I need to make my children my friends and my support in the way that Dad was to me. I may not have him, but I will have them, and I can be (in part) to them, what he was to me.
When Dad passed, I was shocked when we showed up at the viewing and found that there were flowers all over the social hall, which had been sent, mostly, by others who had tragically lost someone early. I found comfort in friends who also had lost their parents too early. Now I know how to comfort those who have lost. Maybe that is the reason that we have shared human experiences, so that we can understand each other. So that we can know that we are not alone. And, so that we can help each other deal with both the difficult moments that life brings and the joyful ones.
My six year old daughter chose this book from her school library last week (probably because of the pink tutu, so I say, “well done illustrator Mitch Vane”).
The Patch, by Justina Chen Headley, is an adorable story about Becca, who has a lazy eye and needs a patch and glasses to correct her vision. She is a balletrina who is mortified with the patch, until her brother lets her borrow his favorite pirate costume and she becomes Becca, the ballerina pirate.
She and her school friends spend most of the story playing pretend so that the situation (differences in Elementary School) is diffused. It is such an adorable look into the power of imagination. The illustrations are vibrantly made water colors, giving tremendous appeal to the visual element of the book.
The Patch is an adorable read, full of opportunities for discussion for you and your children.
Last Saturday we went to an Art Show at BYU. My five year old was an ANGEL! (She also did really well at the Nutcracker ballet when she was a few months shy of turning four.) I think that children, even young ones (ages 4-6), can do very well at live events (concerts, plays, shows, etc.) IF;
They are given expectations ahead of time.
They are given background information (this music was used in that movie, or remember when we saw this picture, here are some more like it).
They are given things to look for/listen to.
They are taken to things that are relatively age appropriate.
We remember their specific limitations. (For example, my two year old wasn’t an angel at the art museum, but it was during her nap time, after all).
Here are some ideas about expectations for different events.
Rules at art museums are in place to ensure that the art is kept in good condition and so that patrons can quietly meditate. Often art has a spiritual or religious nature to it or it has been created to understand/process a difficult topic.
Follow the posted rules and guidelines.
Don’t TOUCH the art!
Typically no food, drink, gum, etc.
Usually no photography (flashes can damage some paintings).
Children should stay with parent/guardians the entire time (no running around, etc.)
Be aware of others around you – respect their space.
Ask me lots of questions 🙂 I’ll often stand with my girls and ask them to tell me what they see, or ask them to look for things. For example –pick your favorite piece of art and tell me why you like it.
If I don’t know the answer, and as they get older I’m sure I won’t, we’ll ask the attendant/curators questions.
Typically classical music performances are more formal than other musical concerts (rock, country music, etc.), but an understanding of the etiquette guidelines will help concert goers to feel comfortable. Help your child to understand that the performers have worked really hard (put in hours of practice) to get ready for the performance.
Dress – typically dress at a concert is formal to semi-formal (think of how one would dress when going to church, synagogue or place of worship).
Arrive and find your seat five to ten minutes early. An usher will help you find your place. Quiet conversation is fine until the lights dim. If you arrive late, you will not be allowed to enter until intermission.
Program – You are usually given a program. Though these are FULL of advertisements, there are usually some very helpful and educational program notes that are worth reading.
Stay in your seats – unless there is an emergency. There is usually an intermission in which you can get up, stretch, use the facilities, etc.
No talking during the performance. Also no cell phones, texting, eating, drinking, popping gum, etc. (Basically, show respect to the performers and those around you.)
Clapping – Usually after a performance there is a quiet moment in which all enjoy the magic of what just occurred. Then the audience claps, sometimes shouts “bravo”, and at times gives a standing ovation when the work was particularly good. Follow the audience as to appropriate times to clap (sometimes there are pauses between pieces (movements) when the audience does not clap).
Outdoor “Pops” Concerts – these concerts are less formal (dress is more casual, picnicking is sometimes allowed) but good manners are still expected.
Shows – Musicals, Operas, Ballet –
The rules are typically the same for these performances as those for a concert. Again –
Make sure that the content is appropriate (will it be entertaining for the child?)
Make sure that the length is appropriate (shows can last for two or more hours. Very young children fidget after 10 minutes. )
Introduce the children to the subject matter/story ahead of time – help them understand the story, listen to the music, give them things to look for.
A great idea is to show DVD/Video performances ahead of time, so that your children are familiar with the content.
Often there will be special children friendly performances which will be shorter or geared toward the kids. Look out for these.
Introducing children to cultural activities is beneficial to your child, your family, and society because it gives them;
Appreciation for things of beauty and culture.
Manners – the realization that there are codes of behavior – ways to act that are appropriate in different situations.
Dressing up and going to an event makes kids feel special. It’s exciting and fun!
An understanding that there are many wonderful and beautiful things in the world.
Hopefully in our fast-paced society, it will give them moments to stop and reflect quietly. (Children need time learn to think. I loved driving around in the car as a young girl, my parents would play classical music, and I would look out the windows and just think.)
It’s worth the time and effort to help your children learn to appreciate cultural events!
*Modern albumen print from wet plate collodion negative by Mathew Brady Studio. Taken with permission from Flicker with CC license by Cliff1066.
I think that little girls are hardwired to love ballet. Maybe it’s the costumes, maybe the very beautiful dancers, the music … who can really say? All I know is, I loved it when I was a kid, and tonight, my girls (ages 5 and 2) are GLUED to the TV watching PBS’s Programming of the San Fransisco Ballet’s The Nutcracker. More information can be found here .
The thing that intrigued me is that this particular production was set it in San Fransisco 1915, during the World’s Fair, which made it unique and visually stunning. The production was choreographed by Helgi Tomasson, and scenic design by Michael Yeargan.
Here is a video snippet from it –
This is a link to a very informative ten minute video that PBS produced about the history of the 1915 World Fair.
For any of you locals to SLC, it’s on KBYU 11 tomorrow night (December 24th, 2010) at 1 am in case you’re up late wrapping Christmas presents or want to record it for your little ones. Just a little Christmas treat – enjoy!